“Our hearts connect with lots of folks in a lifetime but most of us will go to our graves with no experience of true love.”
- bell hooks
how we work
In 2024, matchmaking is an ever evolving, expanding industry. There are more matchmakers than ever, as well as “ways to meet people” online and beyond. So, we understand how important it is to find the right fit for you.
At We Clicked, we see matchmaking not as a one-size-fits-all process, but rather a bespoke experience for every client we partner with. Driven by our belief that no love story looks/feels/evolves the same way, because no two people are the same, our approach to matchmaking is empowering, investigative, radically accepting, and affirming of where you’ve been, and the possibilities of where you’re going.
Allie has worked as an Executive Matchmaker, Digital Matchmaker, Dating Coach and Love Consultant in New York City for the last three years. She aims to continually expand her expertise in areas of love science, conscious connection, relating practices, embodied intimacy, dating analytics, attachment, and more. Allie’s knack for matchmaking in the modern world goes beyond conventional wisdoms and theory. She understands the value of continually extending her network to intentionally cultivate a rolodex of exceptional individuals, all while recognizing the dating journey as the very grounds for self growth. It is one thing to meet someone who “checks all of your boxes,” it is a whole other experience to receive that person in their wholeness, and be at home with ourselves to actively sustain that connection.
While climbing the ranks to become a top matchmaker at one of America’s top firms, Allie started to recognize how matchmaking was becoming systematized and rote. Allie understands that each persons’ self concept, relationship to love, vision for the future and place in self growth is unique and therefore should influence the process uniquely.
Love is the most risky container we allow ourselves to step into. We risk our wounds being agitated, we open ourselves up to forces beyond our control, we are required to consider ourselves in relation to another, where the future is never guaranteed. But, Allie would argue that this is the most worthy project any person can embark on.
Allie’s passion for and commitment to the work stems from a few drivers.
Firstly, the impact she has seen her work have on some of her most successful match stories. While the ultimate goal is to help you find your person, Allie is committed to nurturing your dating experience to go from depressing to enlivening, evaluative to playful and pleasurable.
Secondly, Allie has been in relationship with the love of her life for the better part of six years. Allie’s love story is a testament to just how two people come to reveal every single part of themselves in an intimate relationship - healed, wounded, smooth, bumpy, all imperfect. She can confidently speak to the way healthy, beautiful relationships are the best thing we can cultivate in this life, and she is on a mission to help others actualize their ultimate loves.
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.” EstHer perel
our methodology
an ever-growing, expanding
diverse network of singles
Understanding your situation, circumstance, dating tendencies and patterns.
We take time in our clarity work together to understand what dating has looked like for you up until this moment. We dig beyond what you think has been keeping you from love, to continually become gently aware of what could be getting in your way.
context
1.
Understanding your principles, what drives you, your unique history, backstory, and whys.
We know that this work is to effectively help you prioritize your love life and find an aligned partner, but being aware of the self first is a huge piece. We must understand your values, thoughts, personality, and goals, which will help us start visualizing and screening for your ideal partner.
Starts with self
2.
The perfect person doesn’t exist, nor does love just happen. We must meet it halfway.
A wonderful relationship doesn’t just find us. We must co-create it. Understanding what you’re seeking, yearning for, all while building out your parameters in order for you to succeed in the best way possible in the modern dating landscape is how we’ll strategize. Allie stays on top of modern dating trends, dating research, as well as analytics to advise her clients on what will afford them the most optimized search.
the vision
3.
What you are seeking is also seeking you.
We understand that building a relationship that lasts is so much more than someone who fits your physical or on-paper ideals. The minutia is often more vital than the broad strokes. What are their idiosyncrasies? Curiosities? Ambitions? What is their geographical reality? What is their lifestyle? We video screen and vet each and every potential match for our clients, noticing not just the answers they provide to our questions, but HOW they answer, engage, and speak on who they are and what they're looking for.
screen + select
4.
Logan Ury says date like a scientist. Allie says date like an explorer of a new terrain.
Allie believes that the most fruitful way to date is by widening our lens, and perhaps straying a bit from our initial list. What is most vital is how we feel when we are with a person. Do we feel safe? At ease? A permission to be ourselves? An acceptance? A curiosity? We will continue to check in on how to make your search more aligned as we move through this iterative process.
course correct
5.
When you work with a matchmaker, you will not only have the opportunity to understand your match’s experience after every date, but we will have reflection touch points throughout your journey to touch in on how things are feeling for you. The fact is - opening oneself up to the possibility of Love is incredibly disarming, vulnerable, and you will have ample support and opportunity to reflect with your matchmaker along the way.
reflect
6.
In the modern dating world, nearly 50% of couples are meeting online these days, either through apps or websites. The second most popular way people are meeting are through friends or those they know! The third top way is through events like classes, parties, concerts, etc. While we know it can feel exhaustive having your friends set you up, and the dating apps can feel like a vacant conveyor belt, at We Clicked, we like to think of our rolodex as an organic entity that is constantly growing.
Allie prides herself on tirelessly meeting new singles through online strategies, in person events, partnerships, and other targeted means to continually bring in the right kinds of people for her clients.
the key ingredient, perhaps the most vital ingredient to a meaningful life is love
are you ready?
head to our testimonials page to read some of what Allie's former clients are saying, some of whom are in meaningful relationships with their matches!
our ultimate goal is to pause your search completely and finally introduce you with your person...
I am excited
to meet you!
